William H. Willimon - "The Man Who Loved Mary" (December 24, 1989)
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- | The Gospel for this fourth Sunday in Advent. | 0:04 |
"Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place this way. | 0:10 | |
"When his mother, Mary, who had been betrothed to Joseph, | 0:15 | |
"before they came together, she was found to be with child | 0:19 | |
"by the Holy Spirit. | 0:25 | |
"And her husband, Joseph, being a just man | 0:27 | |
"and unwilling to put her to shame, | 0:31 | |
"resolved to divorce her quietly. | 0:35 | |
"But as he considered this, behold, an angel of the Lord | 0:39 | |
"appeared to him in a dream, saying | 0:43 | |
"Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary | 0:46 | |
"as your wife. | 0:51 | |
"For that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. | 0:53 | |
"She will bear a son. | 0:58 | |
"And you shall call his name Jesus, for he will | 1:00 | |
"save his people from their sins. | 1:04 | |
"All of this took place to fulfill what the Lord | 1:08 | |
"had spoken by the prophet. | 1:12 | |
"Behold, a virgin shall conceive and bear a son | 1:15 | |
"and his name shall be called Emmanuel, | 1:19 | |
"which means God with us. | 1:23 | |
"When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the angel | 1:26 | |
"of the Lord had commanded him. | 1:30 | |
"He took his wife, but knew her not | 1:33 | |
"until she had born a son, and called his name Jesus." | 1:36 | |
Always during this time of year as we approach Christmas | 1:47 | |
we speak eloquently of Mary, the mother of Jesus. | 1:52 | |
But today, taking our cue from the Gospel of Matthew, | 1:58 | |
I would like to say a simple word | 2:03 | |
for her quiet husband, Joseph. | 2:07 | |
Unlike Mary, because he was not a woman, | 2:14 | |
Joseph could not be the vessel for the Messiah. | 2:16 | |
So God, unable to bless Joseph with immaculate conception, | 2:22 | |
settled for simple embarrassment. | 2:28 | |
Our story takes place in Galilee. | 2:32 | |
Out there in Galilee, out in the hinterland, | 2:35 | |
safe sex meant that an engaged couple | 2:40 | |
did not have intercourse until marriage. | 2:43 | |
And if they did, folks out in Nazareth called it adultery, | 2:47 | |
no matter what more sophisticated people up in Jerusalem | 2:51 | |
might call it. | 2:54 | |
Mary, the woman engaged to Joseph, | 2:56 | |
was found to be pregnant. | 3:00 | |
As a just man, as a righteous observer of all of God's Law, | 3:05 | |
Joseph could not tolerate adultery. | 3:11 | |
So God's Law in Scripture gave Joseph two options. | 3:15 | |
One, public divorce, with its attendant | 3:20 | |
public humiliation of Mary. | 3:24 | |
Or number two, private divorce, | 3:27 | |
in which Joseph just simply, quietly put Mary away. | 3:32 | |
Mary may have been blessed among women, as the angel said, | 3:39 | |
but Joseph was embarrassed among men. | 3:44 | |
Matthew tells us that this child came by the Holy Spirit. | 3:50 | |
But Joseph did not know that. | 3:55 | |
When most of us hear the word annunciation, annunciation. | 3:59 | |
I think in our minds we normally think | 4:05 | |
of God's announcement to Mary. | 4:08 | |
We think of Fra Angelico's painting | 4:11 | |
with the beautiful angel speaking | 4:14 | |
to a serenely beautiful Mary. | 4:16 | |
Or we see Simone Martini's Christmas card, | 4:19 | |
elegant angel whispering in the ear | 4:22 | |
of an elegantly dressed Mary. | 4:25 | |
But few painters tried their hands with Matthew's version | 4:31 | |
of the annunciation. | 4:35 | |
Joseph, bolting upright in bed, | 4:39 | |
awaking in a cold sweat after the nightmare of being told | 4:44 | |
that his fiancee was pregnant, and not by him, | 4:48 | |
but that he should go ahead and marry her anyway. | 4:52 | |
They don't tell you this annunciation in Sunday school. | 4:55 | |
Now, the people who heard this story | 5:00 | |
knew stories from Scripture of strange births, | 5:03 | |
coming to unlikely people. | 5:07 | |
Births of people like Isaac and Jacob. | 5:09 | |
But nobody knew a story from Scripture | 5:12 | |
which prepared them for this. | 5:15 | |
A virgin, conceiving a child. | 5:17 | |
Nothing prepared them or Joseph for this. | 5:22 | |
Joseph, Matthew tells us, was a righteous man. | 5:27 | |
And as a righteous believer, he found this situation | 5:33 | |
to be offensive. | 5:38 | |
For who are righteous people except those people | 5:41 | |
who are deeply offended by unrighteousness? | 5:45 | |
There are people in the world for whom adultery | 5:51 | |
is but a quaint, old fashioned term | 5:54 | |
for something we call just fooling around. | 5:56 | |
There are people in the world for whom | 6:01 | |
the picture of hungry children in Africa is called, | 6:04 | |
well, just something that happens. | 6:08 | |
There are people who are not angered by injustice, | 6:12 | |
not offended by war, not embarrassed by oppression. | 6:16 | |
When these people hear the word law, | 6:22 | |
they automatically hear the word legalism. | 6:24 | |
A violation of my own personal prerogatives | 6:27 | |
to do what I think is right, when I think it is right. | 6:31 | |
But Joseph was not one of those people. | 6:36 | |
I told you, he was righteous. | 6:38 | |
It really mattered to Joseph what the Bible said. | 6:42 | |
Right or wrong, just, unjust, every jot and tittle | 6:47 | |
of the Law made a difference to Joseph. | 6:51 | |
And can you picture this righteous man | 6:55 | |
caught in the bind between the rock of loving God's Law | 6:58 | |
and the hard place of still loving Mary? | 7:04 | |
What was Joseph to do? | 7:07 | |
Well, even as God intervened | 7:12 | |
to bring an announcement to Mary, | 7:16 | |
God intervened in a dream to Joseph. | 7:18 | |
Leading him by the dream to the decision | 7:23 | |
that he ought to marry Mary. | 7:26 | |
"This child is part of my plan to bless the world," | 7:30 | |
said the vision. | 7:35 | |
In believing that Mary's child was divinely given, | 7:38 | |
Joseph, the carpenter, set out on a lonely, | 7:42 | |
uncharted path of marrying a pregnant fiancee | 7:45 | |
and naming, and thus claiming this child as his own. | 7:52 | |
Assuming responsibility for a child who, | 7:59 | |
when he was called, answered not to the name of Joseph Jr, | 8:04 | |
but to Emmanuel, God with us. | 8:09 | |
I think this is a story about how God is often with us. | 8:17 | |
Just like God was with Joseph. | 8:23 | |
I expect that there are people in the congregation today | 8:26 | |
who have walked down that lonely, | 8:31 | |
poorly illuminated path with Joseph. | 8:35 | |
I would expect there are people out there | 8:39 | |
who know what it is to take a road | 8:42 | |
that you thought was right, and you hoped was right, | 8:45 | |
but there were no road signs up there | 8:50 | |
to tell you for sure that this was right. | 8:53 | |
We wouldn't spend so much of our lives in quandary, | 8:57 | |
in restless, tortured uncertainty, | 9:02 | |
if God's will for us were a simple matter | 9:05 | |
of merely walking the same path taken by our parents. | 9:09 | |
Or else flipping open the Bible and pointing to a verse | 9:14 | |
and simply doing what the Bible said | 9:17 | |
and going by the book. | 9:20 | |
We wouldn't have a problem if God spoke to us | 9:23 | |
through neon visions written out in plain English | 9:25 | |
across an evening sky. | 9:29 | |
Rather than these dreams. | 9:32 | |
These dreams, these visions that could be from God, | 9:36 | |
but also could be after an evening of Mexican food. | 9:40 | |
So you can see Joseph. | 9:46 | |
You can see Joseph silently just stumbling along | 9:48 | |
behind Mary to Bethlehem. | 9:51 | |
And Joseph, you remind us of ourselves. | 9:54 | |
Of our own stumblings and gropings, | 9:57 | |
which we hope one day shall be called faithfulness. | 10:00 | |
We hope. | 10:04 | |
Now later on in the Gospel of Matthew, | 10:08 | |
in his Sermon on the Mount, Jesus told his people | 10:12 | |
that they were to exceed in righteousness. | 10:17 | |
I believe that Joseph is the first example | 10:22 | |
of this excessive righteousness. | 10:25 | |
Because Joseph's righteousness was a righteousness | 10:29 | |
blended with mercy. | 10:34 | |
Remember? | 10:38 | |
His first impulse was simply to go by the book | 10:40 | |
and divorce Mary, | 10:44 | |
in order that she should not | 10:47 | |
be put to shame or suffer public humiliation. | 10:51 | |
That would not be an easy decision by one so righteous. | 10:57 | |
Isn't it interesting in a Gospel that is so hard on divorce, | 11:03 | |
that divorce should first be mentioned in Matthew's gospel | 11:07 | |
as an act of righteousness? | 11:10 | |
We usually speak of righteousness, | 11:16 | |
righteousness as severely impeccable good behavior. | 11:19 | |
Righteousness is goodness with a stiff back | 11:23 | |
and an upraised neck. | 11:27 | |
Let the chips fall where they may, | 11:29 | |
I've just got to do what's right. | 11:31 | |
Righteousness and mercy are seldom found together in public. | 11:35 | |
But here in Joseph, we have a different | 11:42 | |
kind of righteousness. | 11:45 | |
A righteousness that is quietly willing | 11:48 | |
to bear the guilt of others, | 11:51 | |
silently to suffer ridicule for the sake of somebody else. | 11:53 | |
The old righteousness was defined as staying out of jail. | 12:00 | |
But Jesus spoke of a righteousness that was willing | 12:06 | |
to go to jail, to sit down beside the prisoner. | 12:09 | |
The old righteousness was defined as non-defilement, | 12:14 | |
keeping oneself pure and spotless from sinners and outcasts. | 12:19 | |
But Jesus sat down at table with sinners | 12:25 | |
and welcomed harlots to his parties. | 12:28 | |
He redefined righteousness as convivial proximity | 12:33 | |
rather than as distant, aloof, non-defilement. | 12:38 | |
Here in Jesus was a very new way | 12:43 | |
of serving a righteous God. | 12:48 | |
Then there's another thing about Joseph | 12:53 | |
that I only recognized when I looked at this text this year. | 12:54 | |
That is that Joseph's righteousness was excessive | 13:02 | |
in that it was so quiet. | 13:06 | |
He didn't show off his righteousness at Mary's expense. | 13:10 | |
This righteous one was not out to shame others, | 13:15 | |
to call attention to his righteousness. | 13:20 | |
How different is that image of righteousness, | 13:24 | |
of righteous Joseph, wanting to do the right thing, | 13:28 | |
but also not wanting to harm Mary, | 13:32 | |
from our image of the righteous prophet? | 13:36 | |
Nostrils flared, teeth exposed, denouncing, pouncing, | 13:39 | |
pronouncing, publicly pointing to everybody else's | 13:45 | |
racism and sexism and materialism and sin. | 13:50 | |
The righteousness, the unrighteousness | 13:56 | |
of loud-mouthed righteousness. | 14:00 | |
In fact, Joseph never pronounces or denounces anything. | 14:05 | |
He never even speaks a single word in the Gospel. | 14:11 | |
Mary sings. | 14:18 | |
So do Elizabeth and Zechariah. | 14:19 | |
We remember these jubilantly righteous people, | 14:22 | |
and we love to sing their songs as Christmas carols. | 14:26 | |
But Joseph, the carpenter, left us no poetry to sing. | 14:31 | |
He left us no dramatic monologues or dialogues, | 14:36 | |
no eloquent scenes to depict on Hallmark cards, | 14:40 | |
no moving speeches about liberation to the captives | 14:44 | |
or light to those who are in darkness. | 14:47 | |
Because this carpenter wasn't good at speeches. | 14:51 | |
And he couldn't carry a tune. | 14:55 | |
And so his witness is more in what he does | 14:58 | |
than in what he says. | 15:03 | |
Joseph obeys the divine summons to marry, | 15:08 | |
and then he obeys to flee with his family | 15:14 | |
to Egypt as refugees. | 15:17 | |
Later he obeys to risk and come back | 15:19 | |
and settle down again in Nazareth. | 15:22 | |
All this he does without a word, without a single word. | 15:26 | |
Because Joseph's witness is not in speech | 15:31 | |
but in active response to the will of God. | 15:36 | |
That's a witness too. | 15:43 | |
One day, Brother Juniper asked Saint Francis, | 15:47 | |
"Francis, teach me to preach. | 15:52 | |
"I am not as eloquent as you. | 15:54 | |
"I am no good with words." | 15:56 | |
"I will teach you to preach more eloquently than I," | 16:00 | |
replied Francis. | 16:04 | |
"Meet me early tomorrow and I'll teach you how to preach." | 16:07 | |
So early the next morning, Brother Juniper | 16:13 | |
dutifully met Francis. | 16:16 | |
To Juniper's surprise, they just began walking. | 16:20 | |
They walked down through the marketplace of Assisi, | 16:24 | |
smiling at the laborers, | 16:28 | |
speaking to the merchants, the children. | 16:29 | |
They stopped to help an old woman carry a load of wash | 16:33 | |
up a set of steep stairs | 16:36 | |
and they walked and they walked, | 16:38 | |
and finally exasperated, Brother Juniper asked, | 16:41 | |
"Francis, when shall you teach me to preach?" | 16:47 | |
And replied the saint, "We are preaching." | 16:53 | |
Or as they said oftentimes in the southern church, | 17:01 | |
"Don't talk the talk if you don't walk the walk." | 17:08 | |
Some of you wouldn't have the nerve | 17:15 | |
to get up into a pulpit, and yet you preach. | 17:17 | |
You preach in the middle school or you preach in the office | 17:21 | |
or the classroom or the kitchen. | 17:24 | |
You preach. | 17:27 | |
So Martin Luther said that the purpose of a preacher | 17:30 | |
getting into the pulpit is to make better preachers | 17:32 | |
of everybody else in the church. | 17:35 | |
So that you'll be able to preach, not in a church | 17:38 | |
where it's easy, but in the world, where it matters. | 17:41 | |
In his Sermon on the Mount, | 17:50 | |
Jesus said that real righteousness | 17:53 | |
doesn't call attention to itself. | 17:55 | |
It doesn't stand on the street corners and shout | 17:58 | |
to everybody passing by. | 18:01 | |
It should not pat itself on the back | 18:03 | |
or trumpet its arrival. | 18:05 | |
To be more righteous is to be less loud. | 18:08 | |
To let actions speak as words. | 18:14 | |
I think through the story of Joseph, | 18:19 | |
Matthew introduces us to the first practitioner | 18:22 | |
of the new righteousness. | 18:25 | |
To be righteous is to do what God wants, | 18:28 | |
quietly, obediently, whether we understand it or not, | 18:35 | |
no matter the embarrassment. | 18:41 | |
I believe that Matthew put the story of Joseph there, | 18:46 | |
right at the beginning of his Gospel, | 18:49 | |
for all of those dear first century believers, | 18:52 | |
those righteous, God's Law, Torah-loving people. | 18:55 | |
For whom the arrival of this baby at Bethlehem | 19:00 | |
elicited not only joy and wonder and song, | 19:04 | |
but more importantly provoked a crisis | 19:08 | |
in what it means to be righteous and faithful. | 19:12 | |
Through Joseph, Matthew says, from the moment this baby, | 19:16 | |
Emmanuel, was conceived, he just had a way | 19:21 | |
of causing righteous people to have to sit down | 19:26 | |
and rethink what it meant to be righteous. | 19:29 | |
When this baby was born, the whole world | 19:33 | |
got turned upside-down. | 19:35 | |
Everything had to be reconsidered and started over. | 19:38 | |
For every righteous person like Simeon or Anna | 19:42 | |
or Zechariah or Elizabeth, for whom the baby Jesus | 19:46 | |
was an answer to their prayers and a cause for singing, | 19:50 | |
there had to be about as many righteous people | 19:55 | |
like Joseph, for whom the advent of this baby | 19:58 | |
was a tongue-tying embarrassment. | 20:02 | |
A befuddling shock which required a quiet rethinking | 20:05 | |
of everything on which life is based. | 20:11 | |
A challenge to come forward and commit, | 20:15 | |
to allow God to work righteousness through us, | 20:21 | |
despite us rather than attempt to make righteousness | 20:25 | |
an act of our own. | 20:30 | |
I tell you, 20 centuries later, | 20:35 | |
everywhere Joseph's story is told this day, | 20:40 | |
the foster child of Joseph tends to have | 20:45 | |
the very same effect on people. | 20:49 | |
Amen. | 20:53 |