William H. Willimon - "On Being Stuck with Your Parents" (November 6, 1988)
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♪ His goodness ♪ | 0:00 | |
♪ Lost in His love ♪ | 0:04 | |
♪ This is my story ♪ | 0:08 | |
♪ This is my song ♪ | 0:13 | |
♪ Praising my Savior ♪ | 0:17 | |
♪ All the day long ♪ | 0:22 | |
♪ This is my story ♪ | 0:26 | |
♪ This is my song ♪ | 0:31 | |
♪ Praising my Savior ♪ | 0:35 | |
♪ All the day long ♪ | 0:41 | |
- | Good morning and welcome to this service of all saints | 0:57 |
here in Duke University Chapel. | 0:59 | |
First thing, if everybody seated in the pews | 1:01 | |
would sorta slide toward the center, | 1:05 | |
that will help us to get a few more seats | 1:08 | |
and that would be much appreciated by others. | 1:11 | |
Great. | 1:16 | |
Those of you still standing, if you would look to the sides. | 1:17 | |
Great, thank you. | 1:25 | |
Also, an announcement about an error in the bulletin, | 1:30 | |
the last hymn is number 536. | 1:32 | |
Not as printed in the bulletin. | 1:36 | |
We're only two digits off and we consider that close enough. | 1:38 | |
We want to welcome back to the chapel this morning | 1:42 | |
my associate, Nancy Ferree-Clarke back to the chapel | 1:44 | |
after a three-month leave of absence. | 1:49 | |
Her daughter Elizabeth will be baptized in the chapel | 1:52 | |
this evening and we're glad to have her back. | 1:54 | |
And we're glad that you here, particularly, | 1:57 | |
our alumni and our parents for this great day | 2:00 | |
of walk of celebration in praise of all the saints. | 2:04 | |
Let us continue to praise God. | 2:09 | |
(gospel singing) | 2:14 | |
(lively organ music) | 5:11 | |
(congregation singing) | 5:54 | |
- | The Lord be with you. | 10:47 |
Congregants | And also with you. | 10:48 |
- | Let us pray. | 10:50 |
God of all holiness. | 10:54 | |
You gave your Saints different gifts on Earth | 10:56 | |
but one holy city in heaven. | 10:59 | |
Give us grace to follow their good example. | 11:02 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 11:06 | |
Your servants Mary and Martha who loved their Lord, | 11:11 | |
one through active service, | 11:15 | |
the other through quiet adoration. | 11:17 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 11:20 | |
Apostle Paul who told what he had heard, | 11:26 | |
spreading the good news into all the world, | 11:29 | |
interpreting the gospel to all without distinction | 11:32 | |
between race or nation. | 11:35 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 11:37 | |
King David who led your people with courage | 11:41 | |
though he shared our human weakness, | 11:45 | |
he was anointed with your spirit | 11:47 | |
to lead with justice and integrity. | 11:49 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 11:53 | |
Judas Maccabeus, foe of tyranny and oppression, | 11:57 | |
refusing to bow to the forces of evil, | 12:02 | |
he inspired your people to throw off their chains | 12:05 | |
and to claim their gracious birthright. | 12:08 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 12:11 | |
(lively organ music) | 12:20 | |
(congregation singing) | 12:28 | |
- | Please be seated. | 13:17 |
Let us bow our heads in prayer. | 13:28 | |
Heavenly father, on this glorious Sunday morning | 13:33 | |
when we commemorate the Feast of All Saints Day, | 13:37 | |
let us think together of those who have preceded us | 13:42 | |
in their journey to their just reward | 13:45 | |
in the paradise which awaits | 13:48 | |
all of your faithful. | 13:50 | |
Grant to this university, | 13:53 | |
all who attend here, all who serve here | 13:55 | |
and all who have attended or served in the past, | 13:59 | |
the opportunity to worship thee | 14:03 | |
in the spirit of freedom, | 14:05 | |
and justice and truth. | 14:08 | |
And grant that we with all thy saints | 14:10 | |
may join you in worshiping Father, | 14:14 | |
Son and Holy spirit. | 14:19 | |
Amen. | 14:23 | |
The lesson is taken from the Revelation | 14:28 | |
to St. John the Divine. | 14:30 | |
Then I saw a new heaven and a new Earth. | 14:34 | |
For the first heaven and the first Earth had passed away | 14:38 | |
and the sea was no more | 14:42 | |
and I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem | 14:45 | |
coming down out of heaven from God, | 14:49 | |
prepared as a bride adorned for her husband | 14:51 | |
and I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, | 14:56 | |
behold the dwelling of God is with men. | 14:59 | |
He will dwell with them and they shall be his people | 15:03 | |
and God himself will be with them, | 15:07 | |
he will wipe away every tear from their eyes | 15:10 | |
and death shall be no more, | 15:14 | |
neither shall there be mourning nor crying | 15:17 | |
nor pain anymore, | 15:19 | |
for the former things have passed away | 15:22 | |
and he who sat upon the throne said, | 15:26 | |
behold, I make all things new. | 15:29 | |
Also he said, write this for these words | 15:33 | |
are trustworthy, and true. | 15:36 | |
And he said to me, it is done, | 15:39 | |
I am the alpha and the omega, | 15:42 | |
the beginning and the end. | 15:46 | |
This ends the reading of the lesson. | 15:49 | |
(tranquil meditative music) | 16:04 | |
♪ Oh when the saints ♪ | 16:26 | |
♪ Go marching in ♪ | 16:31 | |
♪ Oh when the saints go marching in ♪ | 16:38 | |
♪ Oh Lord ♪ | 16:48 | |
♪ I want ♪ | 16:50 | |
♪ To be ♪ | 16:53 | |
♪ In that number ♪ | 16:55 | |
♪ When the saints go marching in ♪ | 17:02 | |
♪ Oh when the saints ♪ | 17:18 | |
♪ Go marching in ♪ | 17:20 | |
♪ Oh when the saints go marching in ♪ | 17:23 | |
♪ Oh Lord, I want to be in that number ♪ | 17:29 | |
♪ When the saints go marching in ♪ | 17:35 | |
♪ Oh when the saints ♪ | 17:49 | |
♪ Go marching in ♪ | 17:52 | |
♪ Oh when the saints go marching ♪ | 17:55 | |
♪ They go marching in ♪ | 17:58 | |
♪ I want to be in that number ♪ | 18:01 | |
♪ When the saints go marching in ♪ | 18:07 | |
♪ Oh when the saints ♪ | 18:21 | |
♪ When the saints ♪ | 18:23 | |
♪ Go marching in, go marching in ♪ | 18:24 | |
♪ Oh when the saints go marching in ♪ | 18:26 | |
♪ Oh Lord, I want to be in that number ♪ | 18:31 | |
♪ Oh when the saints go marching in ♪ | 18:38 | |
♪ Oh Lord ♪ | 18:54 | |
♪ I want to be ♪ | 18:56 | |
♪ In that number ♪ | 19:03 | |
♪ When the saints ♪ | 19:13 | |
♪ Go ♪ | 19:16 | |
♪ Marching ♪ | 19:17 | |
♪ In ♪ | 19:22 | |
- | I got a call from Dean Sue Wasiolek, she said, | 19:50 |
look, we've already stirred up the parents enough | 19:56 | |
when they heard from that Marxist philosophy professor | 19:58 | |
on Friday, we don't need any other controversy this weekend. | 20:01 | |
She was concerned about the title of the sermon. | 20:07 | |
So, if you're a parent and you don't like the sermon, | 20:12 | |
please don't call anyone about it. | 20:14 | |
(congregation laughing) | 20:17 | |
For the first time since I've been minister here, | 20:20 | |
Parents Weekend falls on All Saints | 20:23 | |
and that's a happy convergence. | 20:27 | |
The presence of our parents is always a reminder | 20:31 | |
that we are indebted to others, | 20:35 | |
we're indebted to our parents | 20:41 | |
for our lives, our looks, our values, | 20:43 | |
our tuition. | 20:47 | |
Parents remind us that nobody is self-made. | 20:51 | |
Saints are also reminders of our indebtedness. | 20:58 | |
We began the service today | 21:04 | |
with thanksgiving for our saints | 21:06 | |
among the thousands that stare down at us | 21:11 | |
from their perches in the chapel windows, | 21:15 | |
Samson and Sarah and Judas Maccabeus and David. | 21:19 | |
Their presence here in this chapel reminds us | 21:25 | |
that faith is a gift. | 21:29 | |
You believe because somebody told you this story | 21:33 | |
and somebody lived this story before you | 21:37 | |
in such a way that made it worthy of your imitation, | 21:40 | |
saints remind us that nobody is a self-made Christian. | 21:44 | |
Those of you who know something about the Bible | 21:52 | |
and its account of theses saints, | 21:54 | |
may be less than pleased | 21:59 | |
to have me suggest that a Samson or a Sarah | 22:02 | |
are your great grandparents in faith, | 22:05 | |
oh sure, they may look saintly | 22:10 | |
as they stare down at us from the chapel windows | 22:12 | |
but in their day, few people probably called them saints. | 22:16 | |
Maybe people seem more saintly | 22:22 | |
after they've been dead 1,000 years | 22:24 | |
but if you had to live with them, | 22:28 | |
if you had to stare at them across a breakfast table | 22:29 | |
rather than across a gothic chapel, | 22:32 | |
if you had to be with them in everyday life, | 22:35 | |
well, which reminds me of one thing | 22:37 | |
that these biblical saints have in common, | 22:42 | |
and that is they all had lousy family lives. | 22:49 | |
I mentioned Samson and David. | 22:54 | |
The mess that they made of their families is legendary | 22:56 | |
and great grandmother Sarah, | 23:01 | |
she not only managed to be the grandmother | 23:03 | |
of a whole nation but she managed | 23:06 | |
to pass on most of her psychoses to her children. | 23:08 | |
If you knew their stories as the Bible tells them, | 23:13 | |
you might question why they are our saints. | 23:18 | |
Of course, we don't choose our saints. | 23:24 | |
We don't choose saints, they are given to us | 23:29 | |
through the tradition of the synagogue and the church. | 23:34 | |
Ah leave them alone you say, | 23:40 | |
it's bad taste to speak ill | 23:41 | |
of your great grandparents in faith, | 23:43 | |
and maybe that attitude is what differentiates us | 23:46 | |
from the Bible. | 23:51 | |
Today when we speak of family, parents, children, | 23:54 | |
we're apt to speak sentimentally, | 23:59 | |
unrealistically, if not downright deceitfully, | 24:03 | |
ours is the happy family. | 24:07 | |
Ozzie and Harriet, June Ward, Wally and the Beaver, | 24:11 | |
George and Barbara, Kitty and Duke. | 24:17 | |
(congregation laughing) | 24:20 | |
But when the Bible tells about families | 24:23 | |
about what it's like to be husbands | 24:26 | |
and wives and parents and children, | 24:27 | |
it speaks honestly. | 24:32 | |
Samson, David, Sarah, Ruth, David, Bathsheba. | 24:34 | |
And our dishonesty about our families | 24:42 | |
is somewhat surprising considering the state | 24:43 | |
of American families today. | 24:46 | |
Never has the divorce rate been higher, | 24:49 | |
never had we had more problems with elder, | 24:52 | |
spouse, child abuse. | 24:55 | |
Ask any presidential candidate, | 24:59 | |
he'll tell you American families are in a mess. | 25:01 | |
You wonder what on Earth politicians talked about | 25:05 | |
before they discovered American families are in a mess. | 25:07 | |
Though apparently not their families. | 25:11 | |
We've certainly seen enough of their happy families | 25:14 | |
during the campaign. | 25:16 | |
Now I doubt that either presidential candidate knows | 25:18 | |
what to do about American families | 25:21 | |
not because the candidates don't care | 25:25 | |
but it's certainly not because they have undeniably | 25:28 | |
the happiest families in America. | 25:30 | |
But because when it comes to understanding | 25:35 | |
what it's like to be a husband, a wife, | 25:36 | |
a father, a mother, a child in a family, | 25:40 | |
the candidates, as we ourselves, | 25:44 | |
really don't know to think about the family. | 25:48 | |
In the name of freedom, | 25:53 | |
we Americans created something called the individual, | 25:54 | |
the individual, nothing is more important | 26:00 | |
to Americans of the political left | 26:02 | |
or the political right | 26:04 | |
than freedom of the individual, | 26:05 | |
the sovereignty of the individual | 26:08 | |
and preserving his or her options | 26:11 | |
and freedoms and independence | 26:14 | |
and as a result, relations between husbands | 26:17 | |
and wives have degenerated into a contract | 26:20 | |
between two individuals who jealously guard | 26:25 | |
each one's rights and prerogatives, | 26:30 | |
relations and families come to resemble relations | 26:34 | |
in the rest of society, | 26:37 | |
just a conglomeration of friendly strangers. | 26:39 | |
We've created a world in which privacy is sought more | 26:44 | |
than community, where no one is asked | 26:47 | |
to suffer or sacrifice for anybody | 26:51 | |
and where we desire both intimacy | 26:56 | |
and still to be able to shake hands and say goodbye | 27:01 | |
with no bad feelings. | 27:04 | |
And I tell you that such thinking makes relationships | 27:07 | |
between parents and children incomprehensible. | 27:10 | |
I think the odd factor which makes being a child | 27:17 | |
or a parent in this society so unusual is this. | 27:21 | |
You didn't choose your parents | 27:28 | |
and they didn't choose you. | 27:32 | |
Now think about it. | 27:36 | |
You don't choose relatives, they're just given to you. | 27:39 | |
Even if you adopt a child, | 27:44 | |
that child is going to grow | 27:46 | |
to be so unlike that baby | 27:49 | |
that you brought home from the adoption agency | 27:52 | |
that you will continually know | 27:56 | |
that this child is someone who has been given to you | 27:58 | |
rather than someone who has been selected. | 28:01 | |
As parents and children in a modern world which worships | 28:06 | |
individual rights and freedom and choices | 28:10 | |
and prerogatives, nothing is odder | 28:13 | |
than learning to love somebody you didn't choose. | 28:18 | |
To a surprising degree, | 28:23 | |
this lack of choice extends even | 28:24 | |
to the person whom we marry. | 28:27 | |
Most people think that the toughest part | 28:31 | |
about getting married is deciding | 28:33 | |
whom you ought to marry, making the right choice, | 28:35 | |
making the right choice in marriage | 28:39 | |
and when asked what we're doing, | 28:43 | |
we say that we're deciding whether or not we are in love | 28:45 | |
which means are we emotionally attached? | 28:51 | |
Curiously the church has traditionally cared less | 28:55 | |
about our emotionally attachments. | 29:00 | |
What the church has cared about | 29:03 | |
is not to whom you have deep feelings for | 29:07 | |
because we know how notoriously fickle are feelings | 29:12 | |
but rather are you capable | 29:17 | |
of sustaining the kind of commitment required for love? | 29:21 | |
In a marriage ceremony, | 29:29 | |
there's no place the pastor stands up | 29:31 | |
and says John, do you love Susan? | 29:33 | |
The pastor rather asks John, will you love Susan | 29:37 | |
and that's odd because you see, | 29:42 | |
love is defined here | 29:44 | |
as something that you just promise to do, | 29:46 | |
love is a future activity, | 29:49 | |
love is the result of marriage, not its cause | 29:51 | |
and I know that sounds weird | 29:56 | |
because we think the toughest part about say a relationship | 29:59 | |
like marriage is choosing the right person, | 30:01 | |
choosing the right person, | 30:06 | |
but the funny thing is that for most | 30:09 | |
of the church's history, | 30:10 | |
marriage occurred among people | 30:12 | |
who have hardly even known each other before the wedding. | 30:14 | |
You're no doubt grateful that... | 30:18 | |
Are they? | 30:28 | |
Although they would be loath to admit it. | 30:31 | |
One reason parents send their children | 30:34 | |
to prestigious universities | 30:36 | |
(congregation laughing) | 30:39 | |
is so that they will meet prestigious people | 30:44 | |
of the opposite sex. | 30:46 | |
I mean we all know it's helpful | 30:50 | |
to try to marry somebody | 30:52 | |
who has similar interests and recreation | 30:53 | |
and religion and background to your own | 30:55 | |
and through piano lessons and summer camp | 30:59 | |
and a BA degree, parents give their children | 31:02 | |
the illusion that the choice of someone to marry | 31:05 | |
is not really being arranged | 31:09 | |
and I'm not being cynical here. | 31:12 | |
In fact, cultures which practice arranged marriages, | 31:16 | |
I hate to remind you, | 31:19 | |
have a better track record on marriage than we. | 31:20 | |
I know a friend of mine who was a missionary in India | 31:23 | |
was asking me | 31:28 | |
who should be entrusted with such important matters | 31:31 | |
as whom to marry? | 31:36 | |
Someone who has never been married | 31:39 | |
and has no life experience except school | 31:40 | |
or someone who's been around 50 years | 31:43 | |
and has actually been married? | 31:45 | |
I didn't know what to say to him. | 31:46 | |
I say rather than be embarrassed | 31:51 | |
about these unchosen arranged aspects | 31:53 | |
of our human relationships, | 31:57 | |
maybe we should be upfront | 32:01 | |
about how much of life we really didn't choose | 32:04 | |
because it enables us to think clearly | 32:08 | |
about the peculiar ethical demands | 32:12 | |
that are placed upon us | 32:16 | |
by being a parent, by being a child, | 32:17 | |
by being husbands and wives. | 32:22 | |
Peculiar because you're probably conditioned | 32:25 | |
to think that some action really isn't ethical | 32:28 | |
unless you have freedom of choice, | 32:31 | |
unless you have exercised your own decision. | 32:33 | |
Mama, I want to do it myself | 32:36 | |
unless you decide for yourself | 32:38 | |
that this is right for you. | 32:40 | |
The trouble with that point of view | 32:45 | |
is that marriage, just as being a parent, | 32:46 | |
requires that we find some means of making sense | 32:50 | |
out of being stuck | 32:54 | |
with certain people for no good reason or justification | 32:56 | |
other than were are with them | 33:00 | |
and most of us learn to make the best of it. | 33:03 | |
And I'm saying that right there | 33:06 | |
is a picture of us at our very best. | 33:09 | |
Right there is when we learn to be faithful, | 33:14 | |
to love strangers | 33:18 | |
even though we didn't choose them as someone | 33:22 | |
we might have preferred to love. | 33:24 | |
I know that sometimes I'll ask fellow pastors | 33:27 | |
what do you do during premarital counseling | 33:30 | |
and they will say things like I try | 33:33 | |
to be certain that the couple knows | 33:36 | |
what they're getting into when they get married. | 33:38 | |
I don't know that pastors know | 33:42 | |
what they're getting into when they get married. | 33:43 | |
Those of you who are married | 33:47 | |
or have been married, did you know | 33:48 | |
what you were getting into? | 33:50 | |
No. | 33:51 | |
My friend Stanley Hauerwas | 33:55 | |
has a wonderful essay | 33:58 | |
in which he argues | 34:00 | |
that we always marry the wrong person. | 34:02 | |
Hauerwas means by that we never marry quite the person | 34:07 | |
that we thought we were getting married to | 34:12 | |
because marriage always changes people. | 34:15 | |
It just does something to somebody | 34:21 | |
to be married, to be promised to somebody | 34:23 | |
to be faithful. | 34:26 | |
And so, you wake up one day and you realize | 34:28 | |
that the person next to you is really not the person | 34:30 | |
that you married | 34:33 | |
five years ago. | 34:36 | |
But the truth is you're not the same person either | 34:38 | |
and what do you do then? | 34:41 | |
If marriage involves the correct choice | 34:43 | |
of the exact person | 34:46 | |
for the right reasons to whom you're emotionally attached, | 34:48 | |
then you're in big trouble | 34:52 | |
because the person has changed. | 34:55 | |
And you've changed. | 34:58 | |
Nobody I know ever chose to be married | 35:01 | |
to a person addicted to alcohol. | 35:04 | |
Nobody ever decided to be married | 35:07 | |
to a person with terminal illness | 35:09 | |
but sometimes those are the people you get. | 35:11 | |
And I tell ya, I think your parents | 35:16 | |
would want me to remind you | 35:18 | |
that being a parent is a lot like that too. | 35:19 | |
Parents never get quite the children | 35:23 | |
they thought they were getting | 35:26 | |
when they gave birth to a baby. | 35:28 | |
That's why I've always been uneasy | 35:32 | |
with the term planned parenthood. | 35:34 | |
(congregation laughing) | 35:36 | |
You get my point. | 35:39 | |
Planned parenthood as if it's only good | 35:41 | |
to have children if you have planned for them, | 35:44 | |
as if you have chosen | 35:46 | |
and decided for them. | 35:49 | |
Who plans to have a severely retarded child? | 35:52 | |
Who decides to have a rebellious child | 35:57 | |
or a child who plays drums in a rock band? | 36:01 | |
But sometimes that's a child that you get | 36:08 | |
and then what do you do then? | 36:11 | |
You can choose an automobile, | 36:16 | |
you can maybe plan a career | 36:19 | |
but you cannot choose a child. | 36:21 | |
You've got to receive a child. | 36:26 | |
The Bible is right. | 36:29 | |
A child is a gift, | 36:33 | |
not a possession, not a project, not an object, | 36:36 | |
ambitious achievement-oriented people take note. | 36:41 | |
Nobody knows what he or she is getting into | 36:46 | |
as a husband, or a wife, as a parent or a child. | 36:48 | |
And don't get me wrong, I'm all in favor | 36:52 | |
of marriage preparation as far it goes | 36:54 | |
and I think we ought to have more of it, | 36:57 | |
I mean I'm in the marriage preparation business | 36:59 | |
but the trick is to somehow prepare for a lifetime | 37:02 | |
of commitment to a person who is a stranger, | 37:06 | |
who keeps changing. | 37:10 | |
How can you prepare for how annoying | 37:14 | |
another person is going to be | 37:17 | |
and so early in the morning too. | 37:18 | |
(congregation laughing) | 37:20 | |
How can you prepare for all the ways a child | 37:23 | |
is going to challenge you, | 37:26 | |
disappoint you, worst of all, | 37:28 | |
come to look just like you | 37:31 | |
only to desert you for college. | 37:33 | |
You can't. | 37:36 | |
You can't. | 37:39 | |
And because you can't control, | 37:43 | |
what you need | 37:48 | |
is some means of being part of an adventure | 37:50 | |
which you can't control | 37:54 | |
and you don't have to control. | 37:57 | |
The end result you do not fully plan or understand. | 37:59 | |
Morally we move into the future on the basis | 38:04 | |
of such commitments. | 38:07 | |
Commitments which are made without really knowing | 38:10 | |
what you're getting into. | 38:12 | |
There your parents sit | 38:16 | |
thinking how much they have changed since they met you | 38:19 | |
at the maternity ward 20 years ago. | 38:24 | |
And I tell you, 20 years from now, | 38:28 | |
you'll be surprised | 38:31 | |
at all the ways that your parents | 38:33 | |
have been the most important people in your life, | 38:35 | |
even though you had absolutely nothing to do | 38:39 | |
with their being your parents. | 38:42 | |
Marriage, family are like that. | 38:45 | |
What you need when you marry or have a child | 38:49 | |
is some means of turning your fate | 38:54 | |
into your destiny. | 38:57 | |
And my claim this morning | 39:02 | |
is that the Christian faith is such a means. | 39:04 | |
The Christian faith can teach us to live together | 39:10 | |
as parents, children, husbands and wives | 39:12 | |
because just as you didn't choose a Samson or a Sarah | 39:16 | |
to be your saints, to be your great grandparents | 39:19 | |
in faith, you didn't choose Jesus to be your savior. | 39:23 | |
Jesus came to us, | 39:29 | |
Jesus came to us, not the other way around. | 39:32 | |
John's gospel makes this explicit. | 39:36 | |
One day Jesus turned to his disciples and said, | 39:40 | |
folks, you didn't choose me, I chose you | 39:43 | |
that you should go and bear fruit. | 39:49 | |
Life cannot be mainly about freedom of choice | 39:55 | |
and about our decision, | 40:00 | |
since the Bible goes to great lengths to demonstrate | 40:04 | |
that God must save us by what we cannot have | 40:08 | |
by our own devices. | 40:11 | |
The Bible and its stories of saints | 40:14 | |
like Samson and Sarah is a long story | 40:17 | |
of God's unrelenting, continuing determination | 40:20 | |
to love us even when we are unloving and unlovable. | 40:25 | |
It is also the story of God's continued determination | 40:31 | |
to make us into a people | 40:37 | |
who can be depended upon to love even strangers | 40:40 | |
since we have learned in Christ | 40:45 | |
what it's like to be a stranger | 40:48 | |
and to be loved anyway. | 40:50 | |
Remember that we were on the outside, | 40:55 | |
we didn't deserve to be loved | 40:57 | |
and he came to us and he loved us | 41:00 | |
even when we didn't deserve it | 41:02 | |
and so, we come to his table today | 41:05 | |
with empty hands and hungry hearts, | 41:08 | |
needing God to do for us | 41:11 | |
what we cannot do to our own efforts and determination | 41:13 | |
and striving and because he has chosen us | 41:16 | |
and continues to feed us at his table, | 41:21 | |
we are enabled to be free at last | 41:26 | |
from our modern American obsessions | 41:30 | |
with safety and control | 41:32 | |
in order to risk being faithful | 41:35 | |
even to people whom we can't control, | 41:39 | |
even to those whom we didn't choose. | 41:43 | |
To be faithful. | 41:47 | |
Amen. | 41:49 | |
(tranquil organ music) | 41:51 | |
♪ Amazing grace ♪ | 42:12 | |
♪ How sweet the sound ♪ | 42:16 | |
♪ That saved a wretch like me ♪ | 42:20 | |
♪ I once was lost ♪ | 42:30 | |
♪ But now I'm found ♪ | 42:35 | |
♪ Was blind but now I see ♪ | 42:39 | |
♪ Through many dangers, toils and snares ♪ | 42:49 | |
♪ I have already come ♪ | 43:00 | |
♪ T'was grace that brought me safe thus far ♪ | 43:09 | |
♪ And grace will lead me home ♪ | 43:19 | |
(congregation singing) | 43:29 | |
Minister | The Lord be with you. | 44:16 |
Congregation | And also with you. | 44:18 |
- | Let us pray. | 44:20 |
Holy God, we pray for your human family everywhere. | 44:22 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 44:28 | |
Grant that all who are baptized into Christ | 44:30 | |
may faithfully serve you. | 44:34 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 44:36 | |
Give us grace to do your will | 44:41 | |
in all that we undertake. | 44:43 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 44:46 | |
Have compassion on those who suffer | 44:51 | |
from any grief or trouble. | 44:54 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 44:56 | |
Give to the departed eternal rest. | 45:00 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 45:03 | |
We praise you for your saints who have entered into joy. | 45:07 | |
(congregation mumbles) | 45:10 | |
Let us pray for our own needs and those of others. | 45:15 | |
In the name of Jesus Christ we pray. | 45:27 | |
All | Amen. | 45:29 |
- | Christ invites to his table all who love him | 45:32 |
and who desire to live in peace with one another. | 45:34 | |
Let us stand and offer each other signs | 45:38 | |
of God's peace and love. | 45:40 | |
(congregation mumbling) | 45:43 |